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Ellen Austin-Li's avatar

Lovely post, A. I’m intrigued by your dream about your 1st husband. I’ve had dreams like that, too, where I woke and felt sure I had actually been with the deceased person. With your son’s upcoming wedding, it makes sense this would happen with Devin now.

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Annette Januzzi Wick's avatar

Ellen - I always have these dreams, with Devin, my mom and dad, Laura. They are deep and feel so real. I had one after our dog died too (he was running!!) and I could feel him in my arms. My mom wasn't kidding when she said I feel things so deeply!

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Kathy Wade's avatar

Thank you, Annette, for this thoughtful dive into the imperfection of grieving - something I'm in the thick of now as my dear sister Debby faces her death. I read an article recently advising that mourning (in our culture) has time boundaries, but that grieving is forever.

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Annette Januzzi Wick's avatar

Kathy - I'm sorry to hear about your sister, Debby. Perhaps that article said it best. Some words give us boundaries and others give us permission....sending you much love

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Kathy Wade's avatar

Thanks so much, Annette!

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Cookie.'s avatar

I truly understand with the loss of 3 husbands. My biggest hurdle and still is the loss of my youngest son. Truly we all grieve which should be happy moments for weddings, birth of a child ( parents or grandparents gone) graduations, etc. as always love your writings. Looking forward to your next one.

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Annette Januzzi Wick's avatar

I know you do. I can't know what's in your heart, but I will hold your grief in mine. Much love to you

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Cookie.'s avatar

Thank you and same to you. With much love always from the day I met you. You are such a loving person.

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Sandra S Lingo's avatar

Perfection. Passing on to friends who are grieving…and aren’t we all grieving?

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Annette Januzzi Wick's avatar

Thank you! Yes, we all are.

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Sandra S Lingo's avatar

Perfection. Passing on to friends who are grieving…and aren’t we all grieving?

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