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Elena Estella Green's avatar

“ I will forgo a good hair day for a long walk in the rain. Writing matters. Cooking matters. I will forgo dinner out to remake a meal, not kidding. My friends matter. My kids and sibs matter. (And the husband, too).” I love this passage. It is you at the core. Wonderfully written. It made me think about my own self care and priorities. Thanks Annette.

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Eva's avatar

I love what you've written here! It's hard to put ourselves first because we've been programmed to feel guilty about it. And that guilt runs deep. Few women have turned to their significant male partner and said "we're out of toilet paper!" Not as in "OMG I forgot to get it!" but as in "YOU didn't get it or put it on the list!" And if you're single, it's still on you. All those "small" mental tasks accumulate. Birthdays, cards, groceries, presents, and then working out, keeping house, etc. And yes, you can put it on the back burner but it's still there or you can reassign but you still have to project manage. Then throw caregiving in.... Exhausting. Thanks!

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